"Men will continue to have impure and poisoned blood so long as they propagate unclean thoughts. Out of a clean heart comes a clean life and a clean body. Out of a defiled mind proceeds a defiled life and corrupt body. Thought is the fountain of action, life and manifestation; make the fountain pure, and all will be pure.

"Change of diet will not help a man who will not change his thoughts. When a man makes his thoughts pure, he no longer desires impure food.

"If you would perfect your body, guard your mind. If you would renew your body, beautify your mind. Thoughts of malice, envy, disappointment, despondency, rob the body of its health and grace. A sour face does not come by chance; it is made by sour thoughts. Wrinkles that mar are drawn by folly, passion, pride." ~James Allen, As A Man Thinketh.

"Things are not brought into being by thinking about their opposites. Health is never to be attained by studying disease and thinking about disease; righteousness is not to be promoted by studying sin and thinking about sin; and no one ever got rich by studying poverty and thinking about poverty." ~Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich.

"The Young and the Thoughtless!" ...The Reality of Polarity

If you missed the first three "segments" of this series, start here.

From our last segment you read:

"...Once I decided that I was at the bottom with discouragement, and that I had nowhere else to go but up, things began to change that would lead us towards eventual relief. Changes were incremental, and the blessings were disguised. Things actually seemed to get worse. But in reality, it was all a great part of our progression towards deliverance.

Stay “tuned” for our next segment of “The Young and The Thoughtless” to find out how something far seemingly worse could actually be the best thing that could have happened to us!”

Late into the next winter, there was a storm…

But before I dive in—let’s pause for a second.

Since I’m about to explore the Law of Polarity, I want to invite you to notice something as you read: every time something negative happens, what equal and opposite positive shows up? According to the Law of Polarity, every adversity comes paired with an equal and opposite opportunity. It’s built into the law.

As we intentionally search for the good in each situation, our thoughts literally shape the outcome, and our circumstances shift in our favor. But if we only focus on what’s “bad,” then, by law, more of what we consider “bad” will show up.

Okay. Now back to the storm.

Negative: This storm was unlike anything I’d ever seen. It wasn’t violent, but it made an enormous mess. The wind kicked up salt from the Great Salt Lake, and storm clouds grew heavy as moisture blended with the airborne salt. Eventually, that heavy, salty rain dumped all over our community—45 miles south.

When the rain dried, everything was coated in a fine white crust of salt. Especially the windows.

At the time, I had two children in daycare, worked part-time as a teacher, and traveled to Salt Lake twice a week due to lingering challenges with our second baby. My husband was still working at the gun safe plant.

Positive: But amid the salty mess, my husband saw opportunity. He invested a few hundred dollars into some new tools—including a fancy all-in-one ladder—and started going door to door, offering window washing services.

That weekend, he earned back the entire investment. In just a few hours, he made more than four times what he was used to making. It stunned us. We started dreaming again.

He realized he wasn’t as dependent on his factory job as he’d thought.

Negative: Still, that job provided our health insurance—which we desperately needed with a medically fragile baby. We couldn’t afford to lose it.

Then, just two weeks later, Trevan slipped on black ice while walking to a neighbor’s house. He braced himself with his arm, but the impact snapped his shoulder blade.

His employer gave him three months of unpaid medical leave and told him, “Come back when you’re better and we’ll try to find you a position.” In other words, no guarantees.

Positive: But we weren’t panicked. He had found another way to provide. Once his shoulder began to heal, he went back to building the window-washing business—and it worked. Even after the salt was gone, people still wanted clean windows. Business continued through the summer, and soon he was landing larger accounts—including luxury homes featured in the local Parade of Homes.

Negative: But we realized that once winter returned, his income would vanish. The business was too seasonal in Utah.

Positive: It seemed obvious: we needed to move back to Arizona, where we could work year-round and be near old friends and family. It felt like a total no-brainer. A fresh start!

Negative: But Arizona wasn’t the easy win we imagined. The strategies that worked in Utah didn’t translate. Trevan joined a local cleaning service but earned less than he had at the factory—and with zero benefits.

We were living in a tiny apartment, driving a 20-year-old car, and relying on government aid to cover medical expenses for our baby. I slipped into depression. I was exhausted… and tired of trying.

Some of you know this part of the story. For those who don’t—this was the season when I called the police on a teenager for breaking my broom. Yes… my broom. We were that broke, and I couldn’t afford to replace it. That broom was my last straw, and my last nerve snapped.

The stress was overwhelming—on our finances, our spirits, and our marriage.

Positive: But our shared commitment to God—and to the promises we made when we married—held us together.

Trevan picked up a second job at Sears in the credit department. Eventually, a friend invited him to temp at a cement company working on their computers. Suddenly, all those hours he’d spent tinkering on ours (which used to drive me nuts) were paying off. His friend trained him, and he picked things up quickly.

Negative: But still, we wondered—would all this struggle ever pay off? Would we ever prosper? Trevan didn’t have a degree. Were we stuck?

It was tempting to give up. Many people do. They stop trying, believing that their circumstances can’t really change. But we refused to believe that. We refused to believe that God created us just to scrape by.

As Wallace D. Wattles said in The Science of Getting Rich:

"A person's right to life means his right to have the free and unrestricted use of all the things which may be necessary to his fullest mental, spiritual, and physical unfoldment."

We believed that. And even though it didn’t look like God was helping us at the time, we now realize—He was guiding us the entire way.

It’s so clear in hindsight… but in the thick of it? None of it made sense.

Take a moment and think about a struggle—maybe your struggle. What if it has purpose? What if it’s trying to lead you somewhere meaningful? By the Law of Polarity, if the challenges are great… then the blessings on the other side are equally great. But you must believe that. You have to train your thoughts to lean into that possibility. That belief is what allows the blessings to materialize.

Negative: At one of my lowest points, I decided the only way to feel better was to lock myself in my room and fantasize about the life I wanted. I judged myself for it. “Great,” I thought, “I’m escaping reality now.”

But I dreamed: What would it feel like to have a home? A yard for the kids? Enough money for groceries?

I tried to feel it, even if it was imaginary.

Positive: And that… was the beginning of the miracle.

If I hadn’t hit rock bottom, I never would’ve allowed myself to dream so vividly. I think God knew that. I think He lovingly waited for me to finally start imagining something better. Why? Because He can’t give us anything that we’re not in harmony with.

He couldn’t bless me with a different reality until my thoughts aligned with it.

Once I began to think about what I wanted, and more importantly—feel it as if it were already mine—things began to shift. Circumstances started moving. I didn’t realize I was tapping into a law. But I was.

Stay tuned for the next part of our journey—when the “Young and the Thought-less” started becoming the “Older and more Thought-full.” In other words, when we began to live in harmony with the Laws of Thought.

Because life will always include ups and downs. But when you understand the laws… you can steer through them with power and purpose.

I hope you’ll do the same.

Remember: Your job is not to manage the how. That’s God’s job.
Your job is simply to think right. And act on the inspiration that follows.

Have faith. Trust Him.
If you recognize that through right thinking your circumstances can be changed, but realize your thoughts need more discipline, read this.

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