By Sandra Boyer

The Law of Gestation teaches:
"Every seed has a gestation or incubation period. Remember that ideas are spiritual seeds and will move into form when the time is right. Know that they will. Avoid uprooting your idea seeds with doubt."

My husband and I had been separated for a year and a half when he announced that he planned to move back home. His reasoning was mostly financial—but regardless of the motivation, the decision was real.

My immediate internal reaction was, "Oh no! Please, oh please, oh please NO!" But the reality was, we could no longer afford to maintain two separate households.

That’s when my new understanding kicked in. I consciously let go of resistance and allowed a different thought to come through: “This is happening for a reason. I trust that everything is unfolding in perfect order. I choose to trust. I’m going to allow that this move is for the better, even though it’s not what I would have chosen.”

And then I took several long, deep breaths.

During our time apart, I had been introduced to the Laws of Success. I studied them and started to apply what I learned: writing out detailed descriptions of what I wanted, and visualizing those desired outcomes with feeling and intention.

Here’s what I wrote about the kind of relationship I wanted with my husband:

I am so grateful for the relationship I have with him. We treat each other always with love, respect, and honor. We have moved past blaming and feeling victimized. There is no room for negativity. We have replaced it with gratitude and love.

It is easy to communicate with each other and we enjoy talking. Our children see and feel our love for each other and feel a fullness of love that we have for them.

Getting together is never awkward or uncomfortable. We look forward to being with each other because it’s so enjoyable. There is a wonderful feeling of peace and well-being.

And this is what I wrote when I imagined a new relationship altogether, not knowing if it would be with him or someone else:

I am so happy and grateful now that I'm happily married. I am amazed at how like-minded we are in our goals and aspirations. We treasure each other and frequently express our love in word and deed. Our love grows deeper daily.

We honor each other’s feelings and viewpoint.

We are committed to each other and greet each day with gratitude. We are so excited for the experiences that await us each day.

We seek for and receive God's blessings in all areas of life. We are amazed at His goodness, generosity, and the speed at which He answers our prayers. This brings us such wonderful feelings of peace, love, and happiness.

We love our families and our children are so happy we're together. We love to associate and play with them and have many opportunities to do so.

When we get together, there is so much joy and happiness. We are happy and secure in our family and love.

My Sweetheart and I enjoy golfing, skiing, hiking, playing, and traveling together. We are so grateful for the wonderful places we've been able to visit and the friendships we've formed. We know we will have many, many opportunities to travel the world and are so grateful for the experiences we have and the new friendships we form.

At the time, I thought I was describing a relationship that would come after my marriage had officially ended. But I was wrong.

Choosing to take ownership of my vision and happiness created space for a new beginning. And to my surprise, the person who stepped back into that vision was my husband. We've now been back together for a year—and it’s been really great.

I’ve learned that when I shift my thoughts, energy, and responses, the people around me have room to shift as well. That’s the ripple effect of living by law. And I truly love riding that wave.

When I planted those spiritual seeds more than two years ago, I couldn’t have predicted how they would grow. I never imagined they would bear fruit in the relationship I already had—but I’m so thankful they did.

Some of my seeds are still buried, still germinating. But I have full faith they’ll sprout and grow in their perfect season.

Things I’m especially glad I did:

• Wrote out—in detail—the relationship I wanted with my husband, even while we were separated

• Visualized that relationship clearly, focusing on how it felt

• Envisioned a new, healthy relationship without limiting who it might be with

• Held space for the possibility that it could still be with my husband

• Practiced daily gratitude for him, even when it was hard

• Trusted that everything was unfolding in perfect timing and order

As Bob Proctor teaches:

“When you choose a goal or build the image in your mind, a definite period of time must elapse before that image manifests in physical results.”

He also offers this powerful reminder:

BE PATIENT! ALL IDEAS MOVE INTO FORM IN THE RIGHT TIME.

The Law of Gestation reminds us: plant your seeds, nourish them with belief—not doubt—and trust that they will bloom exactly when they’re meant to.

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