By Renae Pelo

Whenever we live a law, we receive its natural consequence. But when it comes to relationships, for some reason, we tend to expect things to improve just because. Because we really want them to. Because we feel we deserve it. Because we can’t take it anymore. The truth is, relationships follow laws—just like chemistry does. Water boils at 212 degrees... and so do we. If you want a different result, you have to take the pot off the stove. Change what you're doing, and you'll change what you’re getting.

When I was studying Remembering Wholeness with Carol Tuttle, I started to see my relationship with my husband in a completely new light. Unlike many couples, he and I are very different—maybe even from different planets. Do you know anyone like that? We love each other deeply and never mean to annoy one another… but still, sometimes, he just doesn’t “get it.”

In class, I began to take more ownership of the relationship I was creating and chose to shift my perspective. I realized I didn’t just want peace—I wanted a softer heart and more understanding between us.

So I sat down and wrote a description of the relationship I wanted—one I could genuinely believe in. That simple act alone made him more attractive to me. Carol suggested we rewrite our "script": on one side, the typical conversation; on the other, what I’d love for us to say instead. She even encouraged us to visualize our spouse’s spirit and have a heartfelt conversation with them in our minds, expressing our deepest hopes for the relationship.

Why do techniques like these make a difference? Because of the Law of Vibration. Let’s be honest—when I thought about how he doesn’t “get it,” my vibration wasn’t great. But when I looked at him through a lens of compassion, my energy shifted. Like attracts like, and suddenly, we were more in sync.

By rewriting our script, I also used the Law of Polarity, reminding myself that for every negative, there is an equal and opposite positive. That gave me so much hope for a better future.

The Law of Relativity helped me view our relationship with kindness, simply by choosing to. I began speaking with his spirit from my best self to his best self—and both of our hearts softened. Of course, the Law of Rhythm showed up too—some days I was sure we’d never get the marriage I dreamed of. But I remembered: this is just a low point, and the upswing always follows.

The more I studied and applied these Laws, the more I realized it was up to me to choose the energy I brought—and therefore the relationship I created. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy reminded me that things are always shifting based on my thoughts and choices. That led me back to the Law of Cause and Effect: if I don’t consciously choose what I want, someone else—or some default pattern—will choose what I don’t want. And that never leads to a good outcome.

Now, you might be hoping I’ll say we lived happily ever after. Well, there’s also the Law of Gestation, which means our ideal marriage is still unfolding. Like anything worthwhile, it takes time, nurturing, and consistent love to keep growing.

By understanding and consciously living these Universal Laws, I’ve found peace in being me—and joy in being with my husband. I love the results that come from co-creating with God and building the kind of marriage I truly desire. Honestly, it feels like the perfect system.

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