By Katie Vrajich

Have you started learning about the universal Laws of Success (like the Law of Attraction) and gotten excited about all the possibilities—only to feel frustrated or discouraged by your spouse’s negativity or skepticism? If so, you're not alone. This is incredibly common, and it’s something you can absolutely overcome. In fact, it’s vital to move through this before you can fully step into your own success.

The truth is, spouses almost always grow at different speeds—especially when it comes to mindset work. Most couples I’ve met go through these shifts at different paces. But instead of seeing it as a challenge, I invite you to see it as a valuable opportunity for growth—for both of you.

Here are a few key insights to help you navigate this experience with love, clarity, and power:

1. "People don't resist change; they resist being changed."

– Leslie Householder, Family Time and Money Freedom Course (Mindset Mastery)

This quote has been a game-changer for me. Every time I tried to change my husband—even in subtle ways—he dug his heels in. But when I stopped pushing and just gave him the space to process things in his own way, it was amazing how quickly he came around. Sometimes even in the same moment! There’s power in patience and respect for another person’s journey.

2. Focus on your own growth.

Everything in our outer world is a reflection of our inner world—our thoughts, beliefs, and programming. That includes the people in our lives and the dynamics we experience. For a long time, I thought I was a positive person and had strong faith, and I believed our financial challenges were my husband’s fault. But real change came when I stopped trying to change him and started focusing entirely on my own goals and mindset. The shift was profound. We began to make quantum leaps—because I got serious about my work. And yes, he came along for the ride, too.

3. You don’t need anyone else to change before you create abundance.

The things you want also want you. You don’t need your spouse to be on the same page before good things can happen. (That said, if your goal is to have a specific kind of relationship with your spouse, it’s worth reframing the goal so it focuses on your growth—how you want to feel, what you want to experience.) If you’re waiting for someone else to become a certain kind of person before you can be happy, start by becoming that person yourself. As long as your goals don't involve another person's agency you can do anything!

4. Own your personal responsibility.

You are responsible for your life. Period. No matter your circumstances—whether you're raising kids, dealing with an unsupportive spouse, or navigating a health challenge—you still have power. For every excuse you can name, there’s someone who faced the same thing and succeeded anyway. You can too. Be open to new paths. There are so many ways to create abundance besides a traditional 9-to-5 job. You can do this. Just stay committed to taking responsibility for yourself.

5. Visualize harmony, and give it time.

It’s okay to imagine what it would feel like to be in sync with your spouse, especially around money and goals. Just the other night, I was lying in bed next to my sweetheart, holding hands and talking before we fell asleep. He shared his dreams with me—how close he felt to them, and how he finally understood there’s no room in his mind for negativity. He was calm, connected, and full of purpose. I wanted to cry from gratitude. It was the very experience I had once only dreamed about.

If I had known back then that this moment would come, I never would have exploded or panicked when he didn’t “get it” or seemed too negative. Those reactions came from fear—fear that things would never change. But they do. They will. Have faith in your spouse’s process. And love them deeply, exactly as they are right now.

6. Forgive in advance—and extend grace.

This journey isn’t just for your spouse—it’s for you too. Change is rarely instant. So forgive yourself in advance for the days when you might lose your patience. And when those moments happen, apologize quickly, and then move on. You’re not perfect yet—none of us are. This is all part of the process.

You and your spouse can have a beautiful relationship—in every area of life, including finances. There’s nothing like being united in purpose and strategy. But remember: you cannot control anyone else. Let your spouse walk their own path. Give them space to grow and become.

In the meantime, work on you. You have the power—right now, with no one else but God—to do miraculous things. So go out and get started.

You've got this.