When your spouse isn’t on board with your goal, it can feel like you have only two choices:
Give up on the goal… or give up on your spouse.

At first, I thought I was the only one who wrestled with this.
But over time—and countless conversations later—I’ve come to see it for what it is:
One of those “life packages” that shows up when one person in a relationship decides to grow.

So now I ask:
Is there a third option?

Before I dive into my message, let me pause and say this clearly:

If you are in an abusive relationship, get safe.
Get yourself safe. Get your children safe.
Pray for your spouse—from a distance.
You can still hold the image of a happy marriage and take what’s useful from the rest of this message, but please: get safe, get HELP, and let God handle the rest.

This message is not for those whose lives are truly in danger.

If you’ve experienced violence but aren’t sure whether it “counts” or if it’s “really that bad,”
please hear me: it might be worse than you think.
It’s hard to see it clearly when you’re in the middle of it.
So I implore you: seek help now.
Reach out to someone outside your situation—someone who can offer perspective, support, and guidance.
You do not have to figure this out alone.

Now… for everyone else—here’s the message I came to share:

For nearly twenty years, I’ve been passionate about helping people discover the true power of goal achievement.
As I shared in my earlier post, What You Can Learn From a Locksmith, there are a finite number of tumblers that need to fall into place before someone “gets it.”
Each book you read, each mentor you meet, each challenge you overcome brings you one click closer to the breakthrough.

So yes—challenges are part of the process.

But there’s one challenge in particular that shows up more often than any other for people on this path, especially those walking it with a spouse.

You set a certain kind of goal… and then—here comes the package.

Related: How to Know if You’ll Reach the Goal

I’m not going to try and define which goals trigger it, because honestly?
I’m still not sure. I have my suspicions, but I don’t have enough data to say definitively.
Most of the time, I only hear about the struggle—not the specific goal that set it in motion.

All I know is that when one person starts to grow, this package shows up with surprising consistency.

All I know is that in my case, the package showed up after:

• I had gained a belief and understanding of Rare Faith (the kind of faith that causes things to happen, according to Boyd K. Packer)

• I had already experienced some success with it

• I felt a calling from God to help others understand it, too

• I was ready to apply the principles again to create even more progress and positive change in my life and family

• But… my spouse wasn’t ready for any of it

And I’ve seen this same dynamic play out so many times with other people that the outcomes have become heartbreakingly predictable.

At some point, the person reaches a painful crossroads. They feel like they have to choose between:

• Their relationship

• Their growth

• Or even a God-given calling to fulfill their life’s purpose

And for whatever reason, it starts to feel impossible to keep these commandments at the same time:

“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
(Mark 10:9)

and

“Go and bring forth fruit... that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.”
(John 15:16)

This conundrum usually plays out in one of two ways:

1. She leaves her spouse.

The frustration builds. The lack of movement, the feeling of being stuck—it becomes too much. Eventually, “living the principles” feels more important than preserving the relationship. So she walks away. (Or his. I'm going to stick with one pronoun for consistency, but these ideas are applicable for either gender.) And honestly? It’s more common than you’d think—and in many circles, even socially acceptable.
Divorce becomes the price tag on her personal progress. Because let’s be honest: personal progress feels good. A stagnant marriage? Not so much.
She knows God wants her to grow—so if she can’t grow with her spouse, she concludes she must grow without him.
It doesn’t usually happen overnight. It’s a slow unraveling, often over years. Of course, there are always multiple layers to a relationship breakdown, but in many cases, a major thread running through it is this: she feels unequally yoked. She wants to move forward; he doesn’t—or can’t, or won’t.

2. She gives up on her dreams.

In this version, she chooses to stay—but at a steep cost.
She silences the voice urging her forward. She shelves the vision, the purpose, the mission. She honors the covenant, but quietly grieves what might have been.
She may appear calm, but inside, there’s a quiet ache. A growing resentment. Not because she stayed—but because she gave up so much to stay. She wanted to run toward a better life, a worthy ideal… and he didn’t come with her.
This option may be more common. But in its own way, it’s equally devastating.

So, the package shows up.
Maybe it’s showed up for you.

Is there an option #3?

What else can you do?

Honestly, I hate that this is even a thing. I’ve avoided writing about it for a long time—partly because I didn’t want to face the reality that learning Rare Faith or goal achievement principles could be at the root of some broken families. That’s hard to admit.

Yes, some people found this work after already deciding to divorce—and for them, Rare Faith helped them find the courage to leave and even thrive. If that’s what was truly needed, then I’m grateful it helped, I suppose. But still… I never set out to help marriages end.

How could something so centered on hope, possibility, and faith end up contributing to so much collateral damage?

I didn’t want to believe it.
I still don’t want to believe it.

But then I had another conversation with a woman standing at the edge of this very same dilemma—and she said, “I thought I was the only one to struggle with this.” That’s when I knew: I had to say something. I had to shine a light on it.

I may not save any marriages. But if I can help just one person become aware of a third option before making an irreversible decision, then maybe they can make that choice more consciously—and more completely informed.

Because here's what I’ve come to believe:

This package shows up too consistently. And the outcomes are too predictable. That tells me the adversary has a playbook—a strategy for destroying families through the very principles that were meant to set people free.

But if we become aware of his playbook... if we can call out the lies and expose the deceptions before they take root... then even if a marriage still needs to end, it won’t be because we fell for the lie. We’ll be choosing from a place of clear truth.

So yes—marriages may still end. But if they do, let it be with eyes wide open and all the cards on the table. My hope is to help someone recognize the trap before it’s too late—to help them see there is another stick they can pick up. One that might let them keep their family intact and experience the growth they crave.

It’s not the easy way.
It might not yield happy results right away.
But yes—a third option does exist.

I’ve heard people share how grateful they are for finding the courage to leave. That life is better now. That they’ve found someone more equally yoked. No regrets. And their kids seem to be doing fine.

But I’ve also seen people leave—and never find someone else. I’ve seen children not be fine. I’ve seen the ripple effects echo into future generations.

Of course, for some, that risk doesn’t matter. They’ve reached a point where anything would be better than the pain they’re experiencing now.

 

The message that follows is not for people who have already made the decision to divorce.

I know those decisions run deep and are never taken lightly. No one else truly knows the pain you feel, or the way you feel it. I don’t share this to minimize anyone’s story—or to pass judgment.

What I want to share now is for the person who desperately wants her marriage to work, but who also longs for the soul expansion, the joy, and the personal growth she was born to experience.

There IS a third option.

It will require humility. Patience. Long-suffering. Sacrifice. Belief. And maybe the biggest dose of Rare Faith you’ve ever had to summon.

But as Boyd K. Packer taught, this is the kind of faith that moves people—and sometimes, moves things.

(And just to set the foundation for where I’m coming from...)

I proceed on the premise that you’ve already obtained a hope in Christ. That you believe salvation—and exaltation—matter more than worldly success. That Jesus Christ is the Son of God and Savior of the world.

And that the Rare Faith principles we talk about were revealed so we could use them to further the Kingdom of God—and bring lasting joy and relief to our families and to those we serve.

"And after ye have obtained a hope in Christ ye shall obtain riches, if ye seek them; and ye will seek them for the intent to do good—to clothe the naked, and to feed the hungry, and to liberate the captive, and administer relief to the sick and the afflicted," (Jacob 2:19)

After you’ve obtained a hope in Christ, then let yourself also hope that He has the power to lift your marriage. Because He does.

He has the power to heal the emotional and physical wounds sitting at the root of your marital conflict. Hurt people hurt people—and often, someone enters a marriage already carrying hurt. So yes, have hope not only that Christ can heal you, but that He can heal your spouse, too. He can heal the wounds and the baggage that cause him to act the way he does.

And as long as you’re applying Rare Faith principles to create, I invite you to create a vision of your marriage being happy, fulfilled, and victorious.

We’re usually quick to create visions of the life we want—financial freedom, a dream home, fulfilling work—but we often hesitate to create visions for our relationships, especially marriage. We hold back when other people are involved because of that agency piece, and rightly so.

But here's the secret:
There is a way to create a vision that honors agency.

You create a vision of your happiness together—while staying detached from when or how it comes to pass.

Work on becoming the best version of yourself, while holding space for your spouse to become the best version of himself. Then let go of the timeline. Trust that unseen help is already at work on your behalf—and on his.

One of my dear friends, Cari, reminds me of this often—especially when I feel a strong urge to fix or intervene. She’ll gently say:

“You don’t have to be the Holy Spirit today.”

So let God do His job. Let heaven orchestrate what you cannot.

At the same time, continue creating visions for the other areas of your life where you do have more influence—your home environment, your ability to give, your peace with your children, your health, your finances.

Set the vision for marital unity and fulfillment first, then put it on God’s altar and leave it there while you go to work on everything else you’ve been inspired to build.

You can build that business.
You can redecorate that room.
You can plan that vacation.
You can create joy with your children.

If any of your dreams involve your spouse showing up differently—feeling a certain way or doing a certain thing—stay focused on the end result only. Let God decide the how. Maybe that means softened hearts. Maybe it means new mentors, friendships, or even divine substitutes to fill in the gaps for a season. He’ll know what’s most efficient in His economy.

But you must release your grip on who is supposed to do what and when.

Stay focused on the vision.
And then take the inspired steps that will carry you in that direction.

Let God handle the rest.

Related: By small and simple means

We are eternal beings, and this life—this moment—is just a small blip in our eternal journey. So if you can’t picture yourself happy with your spouse right now, and if you can’t even imagine yourself feeling joy with him in your later years—old and gray, watching the sunset together from the porch—then stretch your vision a little further.

Can you picture the other side of mortality?
Can you imagine meeting your Maker, hand in hand with a healed and whole companion by your side—both of you looking back on your life’s journey with awe and deep gratitude?
Can you see the victory reunion of that day—your spouse falling to his knees in tearful amazement, overwhelmed that you stayed… that you saw him… that your love and faith helped heal him?

That your vision was part of what lifted him from his lowest lows?

That your choice to love—especially when it was hard—taught him what Christlike love actually looks like?

Can you imagine the Savior Himself expressing His thanks to you for doing what He would’ve done… for suffering long, and still being kind… for showing up as His hands and heart in a marriage that felt impossible?

Let’s be honest—it’s a lot to ask.

To be like Jesus.
To forgive the adulterer.
To love the betrayer.
To wash the feet of the sinner.
To weep with those who weep, mourn with those who mourn.
To turn the other cheek.
To pray for those who persecute you.
To serve those who mock or reject you.

Nobody in your circle is likely telling you to stay in a painful marriage—because to do so would mean you're being asked to live like Jesus. And that can feel absolutely impossible.

But He set the example.
And yes, it’s the sufferer’s path.

Society will applaud your escape. It will protect you from shame if you choose not to endure what often is a living hell. But what nobody really talks about is the growth, the achievement, the transcendence, the joy—and the eternal victory—that can come by walking through the fire as Jesus did.

History, though, has shown us that it's possible.

Viktor Frankl walked through hell. He lived through Auschwitz, while his parents, his brother, and his pregnant wife all perished. And yet, from that depth of horror came Man’s Search for Meaning—a book that taught us that while we may not avoid suffering, we can choose how to face it. We can find meaning in it. We can transcend it. By 1997, that book had sold over 10 million copies and was named one of the ten most influential books in America.

What meaning could you find in your suffering?
What story could you tell?
Who might you inspire?
What families might be saved for generations to come… if you discovered how to transcend your pain, and chose to share it?

You can ask for that kind of help. You can seek it. If you look for reasons to leave, you’ll find them. But if you look for reasons to stay and succeed in spite of the hardship—you’ll find that instead.

Just be conscious about the path you’re choosing.

And then there’s Ammon’s people, around 90 BC. After being forgiven of their sins and converted to Christ, they made a covenant—a serious, solemn promise—that they would never again take up weapons to shed blood. Never. They vowed that rather than break that covenant, they would lay down their lives. (Alma 24:18)

And when their enemies came against them and slaughtered over a thousand of them without resistance… something miraculous happened. The enemies were “stung for the murders they had committed” and—inspired by the faith of the slain—repented and joined them in covenant. That day, more people were converted than were killed.

“The people of God were joined that day by more than the number who had been slain.”
(Alma 24:21–27, Book of Mormon)

Do you view your covenants with that kind of reverence and fidelity?

What miracles might God perform in the lives of others—in your own family tree—if they witness you honoring your covenant to the end? Would you rather die than break your promise?

If not, at least be fully aware of the decision you're making, and make it consciously. Fully understand your options.

Neither Viktor Frankl nor Ammon’s people had only two options. They each chose a third:

The sufferer’s path.

But now, let me clarify something…

Option 3 does NOT require suffering.

In fact, choosing Option 3 is where the suffering ends. Let me explain.

As Haruki Murakami wisely put it:

"Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional."

Pain is part of life. But suffering—ongoing, soul-draining anguish—comes from resisting what is. The moment you stop fighting reality and choose it instead, something shifts. The pain may still be present, but you begin to transcend it. Choosing the pain as it is infuses you with a kind of strength that feels otherworldly. It’s the moment you turn the corner from victim to master of your circumstance. It’s when you tap into a deeper level of empowerment, growth, soul-expansion, and victory.

You wanted progress. You wanted to grow. You wanted achievement. And you believed you couldn't have that with your spouse. But here’s the truth:
Option 3 unlocks a kind of growth and achievement that is otherwise inaccessible.
You literally cannot reach it without your spouse, especially if your spouse is difficult.
In fact, the more difficult your spouse, the greater your potential for growth.
(Law of Polarity.)

Maybe this is why the new and everlasting covenant exists—to exalt those who choose to honor it, even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.

I have a friend who has lived in a difficult marriage for nearly two decades. And she is one of the most radiant, wise, spiritually powerful women I have ever met. She understands the Rare Faith principles and applies them deeply. But she’s often frustrated, because her husband doesn’t believe in himself—or in her dreams. He’s stuck in a pattern of idleness, discouragement, negativity, illness, anger, and depression that has affected their entire family.

Their relationship feels empty. Her children see it. They feel it. But they also see her rise above it.

Her community sees the dysfunction. And many wouldn’t blame her—some even urge her—to leave.
They think she’s wasting her life. That she’s playing the doormat.
Yes, it’s painful. Yes, it’s deeply unfair.
Yes, she carries an overwhelming portion of the emotional and financial burden.
But she has chosen to stay.

And she is happy.

She told me:

“People think I’m not happy. They think I’m weak or afraid. But they don’t get it. They don’t understand what the covenant means to me—or what I’ve gained by choosing to stay.
I CHOOSE it.
And I don’t suffer.”

(→ Related Podcast: How to "Choose" What Is and Experience the Miracle – Principles of Personal Freedom)

There’s a kind of relationship with God that becomes available only when you walk the path Jesus walked. And it cannot be described—it can only be experienced. We’re not called to love like Jesus only when life is easy. We’re called to love like Jesus especially when it’s hard.

“For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again.
But love ye your enemies, and do good, and blend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: ...Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.
Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over...
For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.”
(Luke 6:32–38)

Somehow, in our culture, we’ve adopted a subtle exception clause to these teachings—one we rarely say out loud, but many subconsciously believe:

“[W]hosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also... except in a bad marriage.”

“[I]f any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also... except in a bad marriage.”

“And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain... except in a bad marriage.”

“Give to him that asketh thee... except in a bad marriage.”

“Bless them that curse you... except in a bad marriage.”

“Do good to them that hate you... except in a bad marriage.”

“Pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you... except in a bad marriage.”
(Matthew 5:39–48)

But if you think about it…
Where better to apply Jesus’ teachings than in a marriage that hurts?

The marriage covenant was never intended for sunny days. It’s the sacred glue meant to hold us together when storms come—so we stay long enough to discover what it truly means to love like Jesus, through our own personal olive press.

Let’s be real: You don’t need a covenant to keep an easy marriage together—if such a thing even exists.

No, you need a covenant to keep the hard ones together.

Otherwise, what is a covenant for?

The good news is: Jesus Christ already suffered everything.
He overcame the world and every horrible experience it contains.
He descended below all things so that when we face our crucibles, we don’t have to carry them alone. We can turn to Him—and let Him carry the burden.

And when we discover this miracle, our burdens begin to feel light.
Our suffering is replaced with awe.
With gratitude.
With amazement.
With the realization that the pain was a hidden gift—because it taught us transcendence.

And after you’ve extracted every soul-expanding, sanctifying benefit from that gift, you may even look back in gratitude for the time you spent in a difficult marriage.

Related: Finding Relief From Heavy Burdens

Let me say this clearly:
This path—this kind of growth—will never be forced on you.
But it is offered to you.
And whether you choose it or not, I just ask that you at least be conscious: it exists.

Option 3 isn’t about fixing the problem. The victory of Option 3 is overcoming the suffering we assume must come with it.

You want personal growth?
You want achievement?
You want success, happiness, and joy?

Then keep your covenant, and let God teach you how to experience joy within the suffering.
You don’t have to stay. But if you do—and if you seek—you will find the miracle buried in the adversity.

That miracle might look like sanctification.
It might look like a companionship with God so real, so tangible, that the pain no longer controls you.
It might look like becoming fluent in true charity—the pure love of Christ, the greatest of all gifts.
It might look like a joy so deep and rich that it can only be accessed through this path.

Option 3 means laying down your life, your dreams, your desires—for another.
Not forever.
But with a willingness to delay your reward—even if it doesn’t come until the next life.

And that kind of consecration? That kind of faith?

It catches Heaven’s attention.

In my experience, that kind of offering compels a loving God to pour out His Spirit with an incomprehensible measure of love, mercy, power, and sometimes (where He sees fit)... even rescue.

“Draw near unto me and I will draw near unto you.”
(Doctrine and Covenants 88:63)

But again—you don’t have to choose this path.
Even if you don’t, God understands.
He sees your pain. He has compassion. He wants you to be happy.
He will provide the resources you need to escape the destruction, if you decide to go.

But He will also provide the resources you need to experience the miracle, if you decide to stay.

Bottom line: You have a choice.
And whatever you truly seek... is what you’ll find.

So if you do choose to stay and seek the miracle, know this:
Miracles come in many shapes and forms.

Maybe the miracle will be that He brings you both to happiness sooner than you thought possible.

Maybe the miracle will be that He gives you the power to minister to your spouse, even after everything you’ve been through—so you can experience the godly joy and fulfillment you’ve been craving.

Either way, it’s a big win. Nobody loses.

Option 3 means pain... followed by victory.
Eventually.

That was the choice Christ made for you.

The Great Bridegroom suffered it all.
He left nothing un-suffered, because of His love for you.
He endured it all—for you.

And what did He ask in return?

“That ye love one another as I have loved you.”
(John 15:12)

Think about that.
Think about how He loved.

You can only love like that when you’re faced with suffering—and choose to love anyway.

You’ve used Rare Faith to find a great parking spot.
To pay a bill.
To decorate your home.

But there may be no greater purpose for Rare Faith than to save a marriage.

Use the little things to gain experience. Build your confidence. Flex those muscles.
But please—don’t shelve what you know when your marriage is on the line.

• If your spouse isn’t providing? Use Rare Faith to meet your needs.
  See it done. Feel the gratitude. Then act on your inspiration.

• If your spouse is unkind? Use Rare Faith to see the relationship healed.
  See it done. Feel the gratitude. Then act on your inspiration.

• If your spouse is lazy or defeated? Use Rare Faith to see him alive and inspired.
  See it done. Feel the gratitude. Then act on your inspiration.

Just remember: when you’re applying Rare Faith in a marriage, and it involves another person’s agency, release the timeline.

You’re not forcing the outcome.
You’re simply creating the possibility, and holding space for it.

It may not happen in this life.
And for Rare Faith to work, you have to be okay with that.

Keep calm.
Keep believing.
Keep holding the vision.

You may be surprised how quickly the miracles begin to unfold.

So if you do desperately want your marriage to work—
and if you also long for the soul-expansion, joy, and personal growth that comes from living your purpose—
then consider this:

What if saving your marriage is the mission?
Imagine the growth, the joy, the deep spiritual expansion that could happen if you make this your purpose.

Because with God, nothing is impossible.
And with Rare Faith, you now know how to partner with Him.

That’s it.
That’s the whole reason I wrote this post:
To let you know that Option 3 is real.
It’s legitimate. It’s powerful. And no one seems to be talking about it anymore.

The adversary wants you to believe it’s a binary choice:
Marriage or happiness.
Relationship or progress.
But that’s a lie.

You may actually find the greatest happiness of all when you let God show you how to experience joy within a difficult marriage.

Believe it or not, that broken, frustrating, impossible-feeling person in front of you?
They might be your greatest gift.

To lose yourself in the service of that person is to discover one of God’s deepest secrets:
The greatest joy.
The greatest accomplishment.
The greatest potential for divine transformation.

Even if mentors or leaders tell you it’s time to go, just remember: you still have a choice.
And in many cases, it’s not about right or wrong. Both paths can be valid before God.

Each one comes with its own mix of hidden blessings and unique challenges.

But ultimately—it’s between you and God.
He knows your heart. He sees your tears. And He walks with you through every moment of it.

Just know:
If you do choose to prioritize your marriage covenant—
and if you trust Him to bring the rest together in His time—
you will unlock blessings that simply cannot be accessed any other way.

And if your relationship is struggling, it means your spouse is suffering.

So ask: What can I do to alleviate his suffering?

(But what if I’m the one suffering??)

I hear you. I really do.
So I’ll ask again—gently: What can you do to alleviate his suffering?

(You’re asking me to do something impossible.)

Believe me, I know.
I’ve been there.
But that’s what makes Option 3 so miraculous.
It’s the path the adversary doesn’t want you to know about.

And the reward that lies on the other side?
It may be unlike anything you’ve ever dreamed of achieving.

This challenge you’ve been handed—this package—is not just hard.
It’s also holy.
It’s an opportunity to learn true charity, the pure love of Christ.

"[C]harity suffereth long, and is kind, and envieth not, and is not puffed up, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, and rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, if ye have not charity, ye are nothing, for charity never faileth. Wherefore, cleave unto charity, which is the greatest of all, for all things must fail—

"But charity is the pure love of Christ, and it endureth forever; and whoso is found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him.

"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, pray unto the Father with all the energy of heart, that ye may be filled with this love, which he hath bestowed upon all who are true followers of his Son, Jesus Christ; that ye may become the sons of God; that when he shall appear we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is; that we may have this hope; that we may be purified even as he is pure. Amen." (Moroni 45:47)

And because of the Law of Polarity, if you choose this path, you will not be left without a reward of equal or greater value than the difficulty you experienced in choosing it.

"Every adversity has a seed of equal or greater benefit." – Napoleon Hill

In other words, the harder the marriage, the richer the reward hidden inside it. The deeper the pain, the greater the potential for transformation. You can’t access heaven’s highest blessings without sometimes walking through its lowest valleys.

Yes, you can end a suffering marriage—and you may even be justified in doing so. But before you do, I plead with you:
Don’t walk away without first knowing that this third path exists.

With God’s help, you really can create something miraculous from it—even if it takes the rest of your life to see it bloom.

Nobody seems to say these things out loud anymore.
But I still believe this truth:
With God, nothing is impossible.

Yes, a spouse can change.
But we tend to mess it up when we try to force that change in our way and on our timeline.

As Bob Proctor put it,

“People don’t resist change. They resist being changed.”

So surrender. Surrender to God’s will. Let Him show you a better way.

There’s a path to achievement, and there’s a path to purification.
But if you put your walk toward purification first,
you will ultimately receive the greatest achievement of all.

I wrote about my own experience with this here: The Hardest Thing I’ve Ever Tried to Write

And to those who are already divorced:

If you were never fully aware of this third option before, please know this:
God will never withhold any eternal blessing from someone who humbly seeks Him.

Turn your heart to him and let him show you how to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

Remember, this life is just a blip in your eternal journey.
And no matter where you stand today, God still has miracles for you.

#rarefaith #thirdoption
Related: My Talk on Eternal Marriage

A hope in Jesus Christ can be found by reading the Bible (especially the New Testament), and the Book of Mormon (another Testament of Christ, which records His visit to the American continent after His resurrection).

UPDATE: Wow! Thank you for your beautiful comments. I encourage everyone to read through them—so many powerful, firsthand insights have been shared. Some especially important thoughts on boundaries and how the third option can look in practice. You are not alone in this.

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