By Marnie Pehrson Kuhns

What do you do when someone you love turns away from you? It might be a child, a spouse, a sibling, or a friend. Life is full of misunderstandings—many caused by the simple fact that each of us sees everything through our own unique lens of beliefs and experiences.

Naturally, when this happens, you want to make things right. You do your part to apologize, forgive, and make amends. But what if none of that works? What if the other person just isn’t ready to repair the relationship?

First, respect their freedom to feel what they feel and choose their own path. Honor that their feelings and views are just as valid as yours. This can be tough, but at minimum, you can give them the space they need to heal and work things through on their own.

Second, pray and release both the person and the relationship to God. I’ve found that visually meditating—imagining handing them over to Christ—brings me deep peace. It helps me release control over the outcome. And I’ve witnessed miracles happen for loved ones when I give them to God this way.

Third, mentally thank the estranged person for being the counterweight to your blessings. The Law of Polarity teaches that within every challenge lies an equal and opposite gift. On a bigger scale, Divine Love ensures life balances our challenges and support. Think of it like a teeter-totter, with blessings on one side and challenges on the other—life seeks to keep it balanced.

When my dreams started coming true and life felt wonderful, some loved ones pulled away, angry or distant. It stung, and I tried everything I could think of to fix it. I prayed, sought guidance, took action—but nothing helped.

Then I remembered the Law of Polarity and how Divine Love brings both challenge and support. Outside of those tough relationships, my life was utterly blissful! By law, I needed a counterweight to balance that teeter-totter. Recognizing this, I became deeply grateful for those who chose to play that challenging role in my life.

There were countless other hardships I could’ve faced—illness, money troubles, worse. Instead, all I had were some people pulling away. I began to see them as a blessing, willingly—or unwillingly—filling the role of challenge to my otherwise supportive life.

Every time I saw one of them, I silently thanked them for being the counterweight to my blessings. Whenever hurt or frustration bubbled up, I remembered to thank them for the role they played in balancing my beautiful life.

Over time, many of those relationships healed—not because of anything I did, but seemingly by miracle. Maybe it was my vibration shifting. Maybe they needed time to heal too.

Whatever challenge you face, start by counting your blessings. Then thank God for your challenges—they are the counterweight to all your blessings.

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