By Shelly Webb

The Law of Vibration states: Your thoughts control your personal vibration. Change your thoughts, add emotion, and you’ll change what is attracted to you.

Among many blessings, I credit the Law of Vibration with releasing me from a doomed and toxic marriage.

I wasn’t always miserable in that relationship. But in 2012, my husband told me he no longer believed in Christ and was stepping away from our church. That hit me hard. My faith in Jesus Christ was the center of my world—it had gotten me through every trial, and up to that point, it had also been the glue that held us together during tough seasons.

As his beliefs and standards shifted, we became more and more incompatible. Still, I was determined to love him unconditionally. But one Mother’s Day, while I was in the first trimester of pregnancy with our youngest, he did something especially inconsiderate—and I lost it. As he was leaving to go do his own thing, I yelled after him, “Just go! I don’t need your help!” The neighbors heard me. That embarrassed him, but it was a wake-up call for me: if I was going to stay, something in me had to change.

I had recently read The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, and one suggestion stood out: if you want to improve a relationship, keep a journal and write something good about your spouse every day. So I did. I chose a special journal and, for over a year, filled it with things I appreciated about my husband. It changed me. Gradually, I noticed him acting more thoughtfully too. I stayed focused on becoming better, on choosing gratitude, and looking for the good.

But as our financial situation worsened—he devoted more time to a hobby than to supporting our family of ten—it got harder to stay positive. I became the primary breadwinner, and with the extra pressure, it felt harder to receive spiritual inspiration.

So I sought guidance from my ecclesiastical leader, and he encouraged me to read 10–15 pages of scripture daily. That matched a prompting I had already felt, so I jumped in. And that’s when things began to shift again.

I was led to articles that deeply resonated—ones that suggested everything falls into place when you focus on becoming the kind of person you want to be with, and creating the kind of relationship you want to have. I committed to that path. Based on my past journal experience, I believed that as I raised my own vibration, my husband’s would rise too.

But that’s not what happened.

As I elevated my energy and sought greater alignment with truth and peace, my husband began to feel more out of sync. He said he felt extreme stress and that something had to change. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, he decided to end the marriage.

It was shocking, but I felt an unexpected calm—I knew this would become a blessing. Yes, it would be hard, but it was time to move forward. I was especially grateful that he had made the decision. I didn’t have to wrestle with guilt or fear about ending it. He had recognized the discord in our vibrations, and his choice made it easier for me to protect my children and begin a new chapter.

Since that day, the Law of Vibration has continued to bring more good into my life, and more of the negative has quietly fallen away.

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