By Heather Gibson

I felt passed over and unseen. I had been consistent and poured countless hours into my work, but I was being held to standards that put me at a major disadvantage compared to my co-worker. Their accounts were significantly larger from the start, yet I was expected to hit the same number goals.

I applied every principle of thought and action I knew to try and overcome the gap. I stayed positive throughout the entire process.

And I failed.

Despair, shame, frustration, and anger followed.
How could my boss not see how unfair this was?
I was being asked to do the impossible—and then penalized when I couldn’t deliver.

I found myself asking:
Why weren’t my efforts enough to bring a miracle into my life?
What did I do wrong? What more could I have done?

Does this sound familiar?

In moments like this, I take comfort in the Law of Polarity, which promises that every negative experience carries with it an equal or greater benefit. Even if you can’t yet see what that blessing will look like—you can trust that it’s coming. Choose to be grateful for the good that’s on its way, as promised.

Gratitude has become my favorite healing ointment for spiritual and emotional wounds.

It helps activate the Law of Relativity by helping us notice all the good around us. When we intentionally focus on the good, the bad begins to feel relatively smaller and more manageable.

Gratitude also shifts our thoughts back into a higher frequency. And in that frequency—on that better vibration—we gain clarity. We start to see the situation differently and begin to find our path forward.

But as powerful as gratitude is, it can't fully heal a wound if there's still infection inside.

It’s just as important to sit with the uncomfortable emotions—anger, hurt, frustration, confusion. Don’t shove them down or rush to "get over it." Instead, invite them to a picnic. Yes, spread out a blanket in your mind and let them sit with you for a moment. See them. Name them. Validate them. They’re trying to tell you something that could help you grow.

Because until we learn how to be with our negative emotions and learn from them, those wounds will fester. And they’ll show up again later—just in different ways.

When you do face painful situations, do it with integrity and compassion. Remember the Law of Cause and Effect: the energy you send out will come back to you. Speak your truth. Advocate for yourself. Leave toxic environments if necessary. But do so in the same way you would want to be treated—even if the other person doesn’t “deserve” it.

We wouldn’t choose hard things on purpose, but there is good in every single one of them. So look for it. Hold on. Ask for help. Better days are ahead, and you are not alone.

P.S. This article is not meant to address mental illness. If you're experiencing depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a professional today. You are not broken for feeling this way—and you absolutely deserve support, healing, and love.

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