By Wayne Hafner

The Law of Polarity states that everything has an opposite. More than that, it teaches that everything has an opposite of equal degree.

For example:

If it’s a long journey to walk from St. Louis to Boston, then it’s just as far to walk from Boston to St. Louis.

We also learn from the Law of Relativity that no situation or circumstance is inherently good or bad. It’s we who assign value—based on our experiences and perceptions.

Still, when a difficult or painful experience hits, the Law of Polarity brings with it a powerful assurance:

Within every challenge, there is something equally good waiting to be discovered.

In my own life, I faced this truth in the most heartbreaking way.

On November 7, 2015, I watched my wife, Susan, take her final breath. It was the worst day of my life. I had witnessed her battle disease for months—fighting, enduring—and then, in the quiet hours of the morning, it was time to let go. I held her hand, looked into her eyes, and told her it was okay to say goodbye.

Nothing could have prepared me for the pain that followed. Her absence left a gaping hole in every part of my life. Susan wasn’t just my life partner—she was my business partner too. Her loss was personal and professional, and it shook everything to its core.

One of Susan’s biggest fears was that without her, our company would suffer. And it did. Clients left. Revenue dropped. The quality of our service declined—not because I wasn’t trying, but because I was now doing the work of three people… and hadn’t realized until then that Susan had been quietly carrying the load of two.

The weight was overwhelming.

But in time, I remembered the Law of Polarity. I remembered that within every hardship lies a blessing of equal measure. So I began to look. I started asking, What good can come from this? What blessing might be hidden here?

Through prayer and study, I came to understand something powerful:

Susan is better off now than she was during her final, painful months on Earth.
And that realization brought me to tears—but this time, tears of gratitude. I began to thank my Heavenly Father for being merciful and loving her enough to call her home.

The sorrow remained, yes—but it began to be accompanied by a deep and growing sense of peace. My love for Susan will never fade, but I found my relationship with God growing stronger. And I believe Susan would want that for me.

In fact, I remember that earlier in 2015, when we sent Susan to a cancer clinic in Mexico, she had a powerful spiritual experience. During her first week there, she told me how close she felt to Heavenly Father—how her relationship with Him had deepened like never before.

That inspired me. Rather than turning away from God in my grief, I turned toward Him. I began to focus on the blessings I still had—and to trust that there were more ahead, even if I couldn’t yet see them.

And in business? I clung to the principle:

If the loss was this great, then by law, the blessings can be equally great.

So I began exploring new ways to serve. I started learning how to grow the business in alignment with my strengths—shifting from what we used to do, to what I feel uniquely called to do now. I opened my heart to possibility.

And I know in my soul: those possibilities are there. They are real.

They’re just an idea away.

The closer I draw to God, the more I focus on the Law of Polarity and lean into the truth that blessings are buried even in loss, the more confident I become that the answers will come.

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