By Nancy Genys

It took me years to fully grasp the Law of Relativity. My therapist had been trying to teach me this concept—though he never called it a “law”—for as long as I could remember. He simply referred to it as “the what is.” He used to say that things happen, and they are not inherently good or bad… unless we decide they are.

That was incredibly hard for me to understand.

You see, two of my children were severely molested by their babysitter—who also happened to be our clergyman’s daughter. The devastation that followed stretched on for years. Our oldest son, Benjamin, was most deeply affected. I couldn’t, for the life of me, understand how my therapist could suggest that this wasn’t bad. And while we’re at it, how could it not be bad that my grandfather was murdered when my mother was just nine years old? Or that two of my children died within three years of each other?

How could any of that not be bad?

To top it all off, I lost my father just one month after my son. I lost my inheritance, my beloved studio was taken from me through dishonest means, and much of our worldly possessions were gone. It felt like my entire life was unraveling. I had never known such sorrow, such anguish. Everything felt terrible—utterly and completely. I was defeated.

But something unexpected happened after Benjamin’s death: I began receiving what I can only describe as gifts of compensation—spiritual insights that helped me understand more deeply the purpose of life, death, and this entire mortal experience.

I needed to know what had happened to my son. I had plenty of beliefs from church, but belief wasn’t enough—I had to know. So I searched the scriptures with everything I had, and in that seeking, I was literally tutored by the Lord. I was shown sacred, astounding things. My mind was enlightened in ways that simply wouldn’t have happened without his death. That clarity, those experiences, wouldn’t have come otherwise.

Then came the loss of our daughter. And with it, the darkest time of my life. I was so overwhelmed with grief—burying two children in less than three years, compounded by turmoil at the dance studio—that I became suicidal. And that terrified me.

That moment of desperation drove me to turn to the Lord like never before. I begged for help. Not knowing any of the Laws at the time, I fell back on something that had helped me in the past: gratitude.

So I began to be grateful—literally, for everything. I was grateful I could still pull weeds in the yard, so that whoever got our house would enjoy the beauty (at the time, we thought we might lose it—but we didn’t). I was grateful for just one more night in our home. Grateful that I had two legs to walk on after giving up our car. Grateful for the children I still had. Grateful for my husband. Grateful for everything. I didn’t just say it—I felt it. And through that, I started to heal.

That’s when I began to realize: It could have been worse. I didn’t lose all my children. I didn’t lose my husband. I still had food. I still had a roof over my head. That kind of gratitude made me teachable, humble, and ready to receive. It was then that I was introduced to the Laws of Abundance, particularly the Law of Relativity, and I received even more light and knowledge from above.

When I stepped back and looked at the bigger picture, I saw something remarkable: Benjamin was happier in death than he had ever been in life. We had so many spiritual experiences involving him, and we knew—without a doubt—that he was at peace, growing, and progressing where he was. The insight I received during that time was every bit as powerful as the devastation I had felt in losing him.

That is when I began to understand the Law of Polarity. I had experienced spiritual light that was equally as profound as the darkness I had endured. In reflecting on Jade’s short life, I came to see how perfect it was for her. She got her body. She became part of our eternal family. And she didn’t have to suffer through the trials of this life. When I took myself out of the picture—my pain, my longing, my attachment—I could see it clearly: it was her perfect day.

Both of my children were happy.
They were whole.
They were loved.

And when I could release the grief long enough to stop clinging, I saw that Heavenly Father’s plan for them was perfect. And, painful as it was to admit, His plan for me was perfect, too.

The gifts of compensation I’ve received since then have helped me live through unimaginable losses. And they’re not just for me. These gifts are available to anyone who seeks them. As you open yourself up to greater understanding of these eternal, natural laws, you begin to recognize the goodness in your life. You see your blessings with new eyes. And more than anything, you begin to feel what once seemed impossible:

Joy.

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