By Marnie Pehrson Kuhns

The Law of Polarity teaches that in every bad situation, there is an equal and opposite good. You can understand that idea in your mind, but if your subconscious still clings to beliefs like, “Things don’t work out for me,” or “I’m not worthy or deserving of good things,” then no matter how hard you try, your subconscious will quietly sabotage your ability to receive the good.

There was a time when my life completely fell apart. I went through a sudden, heart-wrenching divorce. My mother died. I didn’t have a home to call mine. Even my car broke down, and I couldn’t afford to fix it. The dream home and land I once owned went into foreclosure, and there was no getting it back. I relied on family and friends just to find a place for my two boys and me to sleep. I borrowed cars to get where I needed to go.

I felt crushed. Like all my dreams had died and weren’t coming back.

Then, one beautiful spring day, as I walked to my car from the grocery store, I was hit with the most powerful sense of peace and hope. It washed over me like light. And I heard the words clearly in my mind: “Your life is about to get amazing with this new powerful angel on your side.”

My mom had always been my angel in life—and in that moment, I knew she was now my angel in spirit. If she had even the tiniest say in things, even the smallest pull with God, she would do everything she could to help me. I couldn’t not believe that voice. The clarity and certainty that came with it left no room for doubt.

I’m not proud to say it, but at that point, I didn’t believe God had good things left for me. I thought maybe He wanted me to suffer for a while, to “learn lessons.” But I did believe in my mom. I believed in her love. And that belief alone started to change my life.

I began to search for good in the middle of my mess. And it was there. Love. Beauty. Tender mercies. I saw my mother in the quietest, kindest moments—and I saw God’s hand more than I ever expected.

As things began to shift and miracles unfolded, I had a realization: my mom hadn’t given me anything God hadn’t already intended for me. He had always wanted to bless me. But I had been too stuck in my limiting beliefs to receive it. As long as I believed I was meant to suffer, that life was just storms and survival, I couldn’t see the blessings that were being poured out. But the moment I chose to believe differently, my eyes opened—and what had always been there came rushing in.

Within a year, everything changed. I was back in the very home I’d lost. I married the love of my life. I was driving a little BMW Z3 convertible and living the kind of life I used to dream about. Every single dream I’d co-created with God nearly a decade earlier had finally come true. And the wildest part? I hadn’t done anything to make it happen. I hadn’t chased or forced it. It all came into place naturally.

That season of my life taught me something profound about the Law of Polarity. The good that follows the bad isn’t just something down the road—it’s right here, within the struggle itself. It’s like a coin. If pain is one side, blessings are the other. Flip the coin, and there they are—waiting to be seen, felt, and received.

That chapter of loss was the hardest I’ve ever endured. But tucked inside it were the most tender mercies, the richest spiritual gifts, and the most freeing, soul-lifting experiences of hope, love, and grace. It was all there, hidden inside the pain. All I had to do was believe it was.

And then, I could finally receive it.

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